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Keeping Play Alive

Cultivating “Humor”

I recently came across an article by Merete Kropp in which she elaborates on how parents often stifle children’s ability to play.  One of the four cornerstones to college success for the “toddler – 6th grader parent” is that of humor. This is an experience and a perspective that we need to cultivate. “Keeping play alive” is not an easy task. Ms. Kropp provides six thought-provoking observations that can give us reason to ponder on how we might be making genuine play more difficult.  Here are two:

Spontaneous Play Time

Ms. Kropp points out: “We schedule everything related to play.” She observes how parents keep their kids hopping from one play activity to the next.  It is as if play time is on a to-do list that needs to be checked off.
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College Acceptance Angst

Will I be Accepted?

On Friday I spoke to a tutor who assists high school students – typically juniors – that are preparing for the ACT / SAT exam. It became evident that she deals with many students who are afraid that their standardize test score will not be high enough for them to earn an acceptance letter. They are suffering from what I call “College Acceptance Angst”; they fear they will not be accepted to their favorite college. The kids are stressed out and the parents as well.  At times, the tutor shared, she sees this fear already with kids who are only sophomores in high school.

Diffusing College Acceptance Angst

Here are two tips for parents planning for college with regards to dealing with this anxiety:

Multiple College Approach

Always keep in mind that there are many good colleges for your student. Focus not so much on getting in (the aspect of college access), but on college success – defined as: attending the most appropriate school, graduating in a reasonable amount of time, at the best value and ultimately doing something meaningful related to what was studied. This more differentiated view can be very helpful in creating a proper college selection perspective for your student.

One’s Favorite College may not be The Best College

Secondly, reconsider why your student is so stressed out. If the university requires more academically than your child normally achieves, perhaps it is not a good fit. For example: One can earn a degree in marketing from both UW Madison and UW Oshkosh.  The academic rigor of attending Madison is, on a whole, more demanding. Both are good schools. Marketing may Continue reading

Expectations Set the Standard

“Pre-College Auto-Pilot”

Most students (and many of their parents as well) haven’t thought through what they should be expecting from the college they will or are attending. They have not taken the time and effort to write down what they should receive in return for the checks they write and the loans they sign off on.  In this regard, these households are, de facto, on what we call “pre-college and college auto-pilot”; they find themselves doing what everyone else is doing and will, in all probability, get the same, often dismal results. As we know, not having clear expectations equates into not having a standard. The “bar is very, very low”. Expectations set the standard. Successful planning for college requires having reasonable expectations.

Two Expectations on a College

Every student should be able to expect many things from a college; these are twoContinue reading

Great College Planning Requires Leading with Purpose

On their way to college!

Motivating Factors to Attend College

Understanding the magnitude of college planning during the pre-college years for our children can hardly be overstated. Most parents are able to make it clear to their children that they are expected to go to college. Even most high schools are able to get that point across – be it to an apprenticeship program, a technical college, or a traditional four-year college.

At this point of getting ready for college, many children find themselves with the inevitable task of picking a college – yet they often don’t get connected with a deeper purpose. The motivating factor appears to be more the “chance to get away from home” or “I’m going to go where my friends are going”.

Getting “Buy-In” from our Children

Indeed, it is all good that our children are expected to “go to college”. Yet the buy-in Continue reading